So, how to have the perfect relationship, supposing such a thing exists. It's all very individual thought isn't it, you know, one man's (or woman's) meat is another's poison and all that! The best way to go about making it much more possible to achieve is to spend some time really deciding what exactly it is that you want from a partner. This entails asking yourself a series of questions followed by absolute honesty on your part.
Start by looking at what you really love in your life, what you love to do, watch, listen to, create. What makes you laugh, brings you joy, increases your fullfilment. What qualities you love in any human beings, how you would like the world to be in general, how you like to be treated. The list is long, but it's really worth the effort.
Once you have that massive list in front of you, then you know that these are many of the qualities you want to find in your perfect partner. And... do not think that you're too picky as there will be many people out there that fit your bill, you just have to know what your 'bill' is!
The problem most of us have is that we haven't clarified exactly what it is we want in a partner and tend to go with a person that we feel attracted to and seems interested in us and try to mould ourselves around them. Ring a bell? We seem to feel that we should build on this existing attraction just becouase it does exist, but this is often the wrong approach, as you will probably have experienced as you wouldn't be readying this if you have the perfect relationship for you!
There's no reason why you can't have what you want in a partner, but it isn't always the other person's fault that you don't, it's more down to you not getting in touch with your own desires and compatibilities.
Start by looking at what you really love in your life, what you love to do, watch, listen to, create. What makes you laugh, brings you joy, increases your fullfilment. What qualities you love in any human beings, how you would like the world to be in general, how you like to be treated. The list is long, but it's really worth the effort.
Once you have that massive list in front of you, then you know that these are many of the qualities you want to find in your perfect partner. And... do not think that you're too picky as there will be many people out there that fit your bill, you just have to know what your 'bill' is!
The problem most of us have is that we haven't clarified exactly what it is we want in a partner and tend to go with a person that we feel attracted to and seems interested in us and try to mould ourselves around them. Ring a bell? We seem to feel that we should build on this existing attraction just becouase it does exist, but this is often the wrong approach, as you will probably have experienced as you wouldn't be readying this if you have the perfect relationship for you!
There's no reason why you can't have what you want in a partner, but it isn't always the other person's fault that you don't, it's more down to you not getting in touch with your own desires and compatibilities.
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